There is nothing outside a person that by going in can defile, but the things that come out are what defile. --Mark 7:15
One more butter-laden truffle popped thoughtlessly into our mouth has the capacity to add to the excess weight we are trying to shed. In this sense, that truffle defiles, spoils, compromises us. Yet, what we should or should not eat is, in the final analysis, not what is important. It is not what we take in, but what we give out that tells the story of who we are, who we are becoming, and who we will be.
Ultimately, what we give out will strengthen or destroy others. Ultimately, what we give out will strengthen or destroy us. Take a moment to think of a time when you were angry at someone for something they had said or done. Feel what you felt then. Be aware of the throbbing of your pulse, the racing of your mind, your desire to live and re-live the situation with all its gruesome details over and over again – chewing on it like ‘Skoal’ - though every turn of it feels like steel wool on your soul. Remember trying to rid yourself of the testy turmoil brewing inside you by lashing out with words of anger. For a few moments your heart still racing, you felt empty - as if you had expelled a stone caught in your throat. Later, a subtle shift occurs. The face or demeanor or words of the one you lashed out at begins to imprint itself on you. You begin to feel separated and distanced from them – a gap has grown – and a sorrow creeps through your soul. You want to take back your nasty words, you want to restore things to where they were before you spoke, you want to undo what has been done – in them and in yourself. Then when you say you’re sorry, your heart beats again with joy and possibility for a relationship reconciled. It’s never too late to give our a new word – a healing word – a restorative word.
O God, work the kinks out of my dissatisfaction with others, so that my words can be clear and true and brimming with love.
These meditations by Renee Miller first appeared at explorefaith.org
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